In programming I write a lot of constructors and destructors.
Constructors define a lot of initial traits and properties and make sure there is enough room to grow. When that preparation is finished, it signals that it is ready to perform some responsibilities.

Destructors are the opposite, erasing traits, eliminating any capacity to grow, and if you try to perform an action after it is destroyed, you can easily crash.

In the same way, women who describe one of their peers as unattractive, unhealthy, or unfit somehow are destructors — destroyers. Confidence is crushed and then there are fewer people who are willing and able to encourage others.

Why does all this happen? Some women are self-declared ..dogs, to those who cross them. Perhaps this is an effective defense mechanism to hate your enemies and make them weaker so you are the strongest but I dont want to live in that world. I choose to rise above it and succeed by my own growth instead of hindering others. Hate breeds hate so from more hate spewed on others, enemies will accumulate. I don’t want that. In fact it is something very important to me that in various situations nobody has ever hated me. Not in school, with women, in video games, or working various jobs has someone had strong negative emotions and I hope to keep that going. It certainly is easier if my spouse was a uplifting constructor even in the face of adversaries. Jesus said, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you. Listening to Jesus guidance is always best. No matter how much fun you think it is to rip someone’s head off, or how much you think they deserve it.