An open and frank declaration
Archive for September, 2011
Dealbreaker #4 destroyers
08 months ago
by Sheridan
in Dealbreaker
In programming I write a lot of constructors and destructors.
Constructors define a lot of initial traits and properties and make sure there is enough room to grow. When that preparation is finished, it signals that it is ready to perform some responsibilities.
Destructors are the opposite, erasing traits, eliminating any capacity to grow, and if you try to perform an action after it is destroyed, you can easily crash.
In the same way, women who describe one of their peers as unattractive, unhealthy, or unfit somehow are destructors — destroyers. Confidence is crushed and then there are fewer people who are willing and able to encourage others.
Why does all this happen? Some women are self-declared ..dogs, to those who cross them. Perhaps this is an effective defense mechanism to hate your enemies and make them weaker so you are the strongest but I dont want to live in that world. I choose to rise above it and succeed by my own growth instead of hindering others. Hate breeds hate so from more hate spewed on others, enemies will accumulate. I don’t want that. In fact it is something very important to me that in various situations nobody has ever hated me. Not in school, with women, in video games, or working various jobs has someone had strong negative emotions and I hope to keep that going. It certainly is easier if my spouse was a uplifting constructor even in the face of adversaries. Jesus said, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you. Listening to Jesus guidance is always best. No matter how much fun you think it is to rip someone’s head off, or how much you think they deserve it.
Culture reboot
0With my new asian pop phase, I’ve also jumped on board asian television, specifically Korean “variety” shows and reality ones.
I feel I have learned a lot about a different culture and makes me mostly tired of this one. But Koreans definitely aren’t perfect either.
They take the ‘would you rather’ game to an extreme and compare people doing things all the time. Compete to make the stupidest face, compete for being a more ideal wife. I used to think it was light hearted and joking, but they make no apologies and laugh about it. Then it becomes news and turns into dating rumors. I suppose I had childhood times where we would compare girls and give them numbers, or pick A over B. But, somehow doing this to their face was horribly insulting. Not in Korea.
Shinyoung: Im so good at making steamed riced cakes
Sunny: Oh, that means you will have a beautiful daughter. (Korean saying: she who can make steamed rice cakes will raise a beautiful daughter)
Shinyoung: My mother was also good.
Shinyoung: It’s a lie.
Hara: What do you call someone who sells doors? (door = moon in korean)
Boss guy: moonfany? (fany = selling)
Shinyoung: Sailor Moon?
Hara: Yes! (Sailor sounds like seller… nobody laughs, hara still smiles)
Shinyoung: She’s not even phased!
“Write it as a failure but read it as an experience” – Korean saying
