Has someone asked you to do something, and then when you remember to do it, this person is surprised? Or they already did it “just in case” you forgot?

Or, have you said “oh, my bad” so many times that it no longer has any impact? If you can say in the same tone “Hi, how are you! [you failed to do X Y Z] Oh, my mistake! Did you see the latest inane reality show?” Then obviously success isn’t very important to you and failure has become ordinary.

If someone is going to have a strong bond with you, it makes it easier on them if you are reliable. Tasks can be split and stress can be lightened if multiple people can handle responsibilities assigned to them without the assumption of flaky failure. After continual letdowns, it is natural for an independent attitude to be born which can lead to panic, isolation, meltdowns, depression. Also, failures with small things means it is harder to graduate to bigger bond-building things.

In a relationship, this is a dealbreaker because I am not going to be able to manage my employment, my residence and my family with all those responsibilities. I don’t even like managing the responsibilities of one person let alone a household of people. When I give someone the responsibility to pick me up after a flight in a strange city, and they fail to show up, that really sucks (and I hope to never sleep in an airport again). Obviously nobody would choose a life of disappointment. I think if I had a wife who did not have the ability to take care of responsibilities and make things easier, there would be a lot of tension, disappointment, stress, and thusly, deal broken.