uprestaurant My last post is a bit gloomy, and no i’m not depressed or giving up. Although tonight I did have fast food, hah! It was only because it was inconvenient to go home. But I’m doing great? Lots of greats and a couple notsogreats, but I feel up overall. And wordy, so here goes.

Oh, its a twofer, this one is first

So what does it take to succeed on my level of success? To take everyone around me forward and to have people who can be around me and take me forward too. I definitely advance on my own but these times are always spurred by external factors. If you locked me in prison, (or more likely an insane asylum), or in the lifeless life of Will Ferrell’s character pre-Maggie Gyllenhaal in Stranger than Fiction, I would just be a waste of space. Howevr according to the world, if you get a spouse and career you win the young adult level and move on to keeping your marriage and having kids. Plus having something to do on friday night gets you bonus points. So bring on the single women and people who enjoy activities.

But who says that is it? Can you go through life being totally isolated and think, ‘oh i’m doing great, I have some laughs or physical exertion with fellow humans,’ but can’t that be replaced by The Office and a Bowflex? Or maybe just having one person to talk to when i get home. How much pressure is that on the one relationship? I can see this eventually happening and I suppose with ultracompatible people it could make life livable and even good. But there are great joys in people, the way they think, the interactions to be had, the lessons to be learned. How many opportunities do we have to bring mutual benefit or positive experience to another person?

I often consider my blog talking to myself in the future. I read what I have to say and its quite interesting the lessons I’ve learned and forgotten, or the struggles that I’ve had and triumphed. But I am just one man with a brain that works in one way. My single perspective could be enhanced by another, at this phase it might be predominantly the mother perspective that is my secondary consideration when I am going through life. For example, when I make a meal, I consider what I think tastes good, and then what my mom would consider to be balanced and healthy. That’s about where my thinking stops. But what about adding more to that, considering what my friends like to cook, or watching food channel on tv to see what experts recommend and get visual aids on how to perform the maneuvers. I think that would be better.

Of course that takes time, and food prep isn’t necessarily worthy of my time but this possibility for more can be applied to things that ARE worth my time. Like life matters, how do I relate to people? maybe I could ask more people I know, or watch how people behave and interact. What is a good way to uplift people or be uplifted? I might try out my limited skills on internet randoms (who are dear!) Or open myself up to people in scenarios where truth can be spoken. I could easily limit my realm for inputs and outputs to myself, or even extending that to one other. This probably would be fine, but why stop there! I’m awake 16 hours, and I might be interacting with 5 to 50 people on a given day, so why not make the best use of it. And use where I’ve come so far to the betterment of people around me.

I don’t have it figured out, and I don’t have any local base here of deep relationships since i transplanted homes, but I can try. It just takes some initiative, proper sleep and/or coffee.